Any wannabe Dominant, who enters your blogspace, barks orders at you, and thinks you are obligated to perform their demands because they know you are a submissive, either does not understand the power dynamics within BDSM, or hopes that YOU do not have a good understanding of them.
As a submissive, your submission is something that must be given to someone before they obtain any control over you. Until the time you submit to a Dominant of your choosing, nobody should expect that you have any obligation to fulfill their demands, and if they do, you should tell them that they lack understanding of how D/s dynamics work.
Before submission is offered, all the power in a D/s dynamic belongs to the submissive. It is the Dominant’s task to do what is necessary to earn a submissive’s affection and trust to a degree necessary for the submissive to offer their submission to the Dominant, at which time all the power in the relationship shifts from the submissive, to the Dominant. After submission has been earned by the Dominant, they may now make whatever demands on their submissive that they wish, and expect them to be performed. (excepting hard limits or instances where the submissive uses their safe word)
While holding the power is not intrinsically attractive to a submissive personality within the D/s dynamics, it is nevertheless important for them to wield this power with consistency before they find a Dominant worth submitting to. Standing up to those who don’t respect your submission will help to divide the wheat from the chaff among D types, and help you to attain a Dominant that is more knowledgeable about how BDSM works, and therefore, more likely to give you a fulfilling relationship, whether it is within a single scene, or a lifelong relationship.
JD🌹